By Dr. Bobby J. Grossi

Our culture can be very harsh towards dreamers. There’s an unspoken belief that dreaming big is just for children, no grown-ups allowed. We ask four-year-old Billy what he wants to be when he grows up and he says, “I want to be president. And an astronaut. And a garbage man.” We smile because we know that no one is all those things when they grow up, as Billy will be taught in time.

I find this very sad. I believe that dreaming big should be encouraged in everyone, even adults. Dreaming big is how we explore our truest desires and special gifts we have to share with the world. We just need the courage to do it.

Big Dreams Take You on a Journey

Having big dreams is not an ego trip. God wants us to dream big so we can reach our greatest potential. The great thing about having big dreams is that if you reach them, you get what you want. If you don’t reach them, you’re still far beyond where you ever would have ended up if you’d never dreamed at all.

Big dreams force us to stretch ourselves in ways we never imagined. We stretch ourselves by believing that we’re capable of more than we thought. We stretch ourselves in the actual work we do as we pursue our dreams. We stretch ourselves by facing our true nature as we struggle along the way, coming face-to-face with the things we love about ourselves and the things we aren’t so proud of. It’s an incredible journey.  

The Universe Takes Notice

When you dream big and start taking action towards making your dreams come true, the universe notices. That’s when things start aligning for you. Opportunities appear that you could never have anticipated. People show up with the connections or the words of encouragement you need at just the right moment. It can start to feel like magic – and it is. You just have to be open to letting the universe help you on your way.

Why Doesn’t Everyone Dream Big?

I believe part of it is our culture that doesn’t encourage big, outlandish dreams past the age of 8 or so. I also believe that many people who used to dream big stop believing in themselves somewhere along the way. They look around at the life they’ve created for themselves and they see the responsibilities they have rather than the opportunities that are in front of them. In the end, they have a much smaller impact on the world than they could have had, and they keep their unique gifts to themselves rather than sharing them with the world.

It’s easy to let this happen as we go about our daily lives. The fact is, we do have responsibilities and families and bills to pay. But being responsible and dreaming big are not mutually exclusive. We can do both. We just need the courage to allow ourselves to dream.

Having the Courage to Believe You Can Do Something Great

There’s a quote by Marianne Williamson that you may have heard that speaks to this idea. It goes: “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure… We ask ourselves, “Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?” Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God.” This is the mindset you need to develop the courage to dream big. The question is not whether you are capable or worthy of doing incredible things. The question is, why wouldn’t you be?

Go dream big. It’s what you were meant to do.