By Dr. Bobby J. Grossi

Answer yes or no: Are you the Best You you can be?

I don’t know you personally, but my guess is that you answered “no” to that question. I’m guessing you feel like you have a long way to go towards being your Best You. We all do. We have a vision in our minds of what ourselves and our lives could be, and we don’t measure up to it – at least not yet.

This isn’t meant to be depressing, but inspiring. Because I believe that how to be the Best You is not by being the Best You. Instead, it’s by continually improving yourself to become a better version of yourself. Here are some of my thoughts on self-improvement and why it’s powerful.

We Love Stories of Change

As a culture, we love movies and books in which a character evolves and grows. At the end of Casablanca, Rick chooses sacrifice over selfishness. Dorothy in The Wizard of Oz learns a lesson about valuing home. Red from The Shawshank Redemption begins to hope again.

We like stories where the characters change not only because we like a happy ending, but because we recognize the truth in them. People change in real life all the time. When people change for the better, their stories of self-improvement can be a beacon of inspiration and hope to others. Think of how many high-profile figures share stories of their difficult childhoods or rough beginnings. We don’t focus on who and what they were at the start, but on who and what they became later on.

It’s the same for you. Being the Best You means constantly evolving and working to be better than you were yesterday. If you have your own story of a difficult childhood or rough beginning, as many of us do, you can’t let that hold you back. Instead, let it inspire you to make an even greater change over the course of your own story. You never know how many people your own story of self-improvement will inspire.

It’s Never Too Late

At the start of Charles Dickens’ A Christmas Carol, Ebenezer Scrooge is a miserable and miserly man with money but no friends or family that love him. After visitations from the Ghost of Christmases Past, Present, and Future, he realizes he’s living his life all wrong. He discovers love for his fellow man and wakes up on Christmas morning a happy, generous person. It’s one of the most beloved stories of all time that’s been told countless times.

Some people make excuses and lament that it’s too late for them to improve themselves and their lives. But remember that Scrooge is already an old man at the start of the story, yet we’re moved by the improvement he makes to his character overnight.

The moral is, it’s never too late to change for the better; as George Eliot said, “It is never too late to be what you might have been.” Just as you can’t let unfortunate beginnings stop you from working towards being your Best You, you can’t let your age stop you, either.

Self-Improvement Never Stops

If you want to be the Best You you can be, then you need to get used to working on improving yourself to become the best version of yourself you can be. The truth is that no matter how much we change, there will still be room for improvement. That’s because as we continue to achieve our goals, our dreams become bigger and bigger, too. The only way to be your Best You is to accept that you can really only be the Best You At This Moment – and that’s good enough.